Wednesday, November 16, 2022

Gleam // Surgery in Mexico


Dress: Floral Maci Fit & Flare Dress by Leota (size L) via Gwynnie Bee
Cardigan: MAK, gifted
Tights: Snag
Shoes: Fluevog, Unity: Aimee
Earring & Necklace: Wendy Baker
Bracelets: Vintage
Phtotography: Super Boo, Kate, & Me
Stats: 5'7" 39-37-48
Gwynnie Bee sent me this dress in a large & xl in the same box. My fault for having both of them in my closet, but ?!? don't real people pack these boxes? The large was still big on me, but I was glad to have it as an option. They call this a fit & flare dress, but I consider it a swing dress. Low pockets, good length, weird metal "buttons" on one shoulder. Boring dress, but I like the way I styled it & it was super comfortable to wear. 
And I love any chance to pair Fluevogs with my outfit...especially as winter approaches & I won't want to wear my precious in the snow...much. 
Is this my first time wearing this Wendy necklace? It's awfully pastel for me, but I still adore it. 
My make-up with this outfit included...Urban Decay eyeliner in Alkaline, Violet Voss Berry Burst eyeshadow palette, MAC lipliner in Burgundy, Cruella lipstick from Nars, & OPI nail polish in Red Like Roses. 
I first wore this dress to attend Gleam with Kate...see, swing...& showing off my shoulder bling. 
Dinner outside first...from a new place, Jacknife (the owners of Red). I don't remember what Kate got...but I had a Miso Pork Belly Bowl (miso-braised pork belly, seared broccolini, leaks, scallions, soft boiled egg, purple cauliflower puree, togarashi spice) & asked them to leave out the rice. It was tasty. 
Then, on to Gleam...an annual Olbrich Gardens event where artists create art with light. We both agreed that this year was their best one...
I love interactive art installations...
I wish my whole yard was lit up like this...I wonder what happens to these after they take them down? 
Balls lit up when you touched them...& for the first time, there was a display inside the conservatory.
I also wore this dress to work & take a walk with David. 
Packing for Mexico! I did extensive research & decided on the surgeon I did because he specializes in plastics on extreme weight loss patients. I had been on his waiting list for over a year. Me, on a plane. It will never get old to me that I fit in an airplane seat comfortably & can use the seatbelt with no extender. Flying out of Madison before sunrise...flying into Chicago.
Of course...since I had ample time...I arrived at Gate C29...just 2 down from C25...that never happens at O'Hare. Also, we got some AirTags that I put in my luggage...I usually spend most of the flight worrying what I will do if they lose my luggage. No more. Check out that gorgeous view of the Denver area...I really want to visit...I've only flown over & driven through. 
Flying into San Diego...waiting for Gerardo. This was a perfect day...all flights on time, no screaming children. I had the best driver! Gerardo & I talked about marriage, communication, family, & how best to educate people about sex (he specifically told me that it's common there for men to have sex with their young female relatives & he wants that to be talked about & stopped). At the hospital...I was escorted by a young woman who took me to get all the tests I needed. Everyone was so warm & welcoming. Also, best hospital food ever...grilled chicken salad with lots of veggies hidden under there. The weather was nice in Tijuana...not that I got outside much. My last meal. My surgeon, Dr. Galvez came in, took these before pictures of me & marked my body up for surgery in the morning. He was such a kind person. I was nervous going into surgery, but the anesthesiologist had come to my room to talk to me & gave me excellent orientation to how it was all going to go...& it went just like he said. I got on the table, rolled on my side, & the next thing I knew...I woke up in the recovery room.  Over 25 pounds of extra skin was removed! That blows my mind. The surgery took 8 hours & 15 minutes. They did an extended arm lift, full abdomen lift (reverse tummy tuck, FDL, mons lift, extended tummy tuck), & a brassiere torsoplasty. Dr. Galvez offered to add on a breast lift, but he told me with all my extra skin, I'd end up an A cup, maybe a small B. I'm already ridiculously pear shaped, so I opted to wait until I can get a lift with implants during the next round. I'd like to be a full C. Another night in the hospital that I barely remember. The next morning, I had the sweetest nurse. They needed me to be able to walk & pee in order to leave...& I was having a difficult time urinating, so she came in & turned the faucet on & said, "like a baby." Avocado with every meal...yes, please. After lunch, I was checked out of the hospital & escorted to the recovery hotel. All the nurses & valets at the hotel were SO nice & caring. AND, my surgeon's mom, Mama Galvez, makes all the lunches & dinners...how awesome is that?! I took photos of all my meals...because what else was there to photograph? The lighting was terrible, but I assure you...the food was delicious. First dinner, grilled chicken & zucchini with a great smoky flavor, salsa, guacamole, cheese quesadilla, & a corn & jalapeƱo patty. There was also soup, but I didn't eat that. After dinner, I unpacked a bit & set out Halloween candy for anyone visiting my room (mainly nurses & valets). Every morning, the valet would text us what was available at the breakfast buffet, with pictures, & bring it to us. No matter what else I chose, I always got scrambled eggs. The second day at the hotel...the nurse showered me & stuffed my swollen body into this faja. She turned out to be my favorite nurse, Josephine. The way she showered me, dried me off, & put lotion all over my body made me feel like a well cared for baby. Then she gave me a massage, including my scalp, unexpected, but relaxing. After the shower, I felt nauseous...when I told Jose, she put an alcohol prep pad under my nose...& it went away! I'd never heard of that. While she was dressing me, she told me I had a big butt...she didn't speak much English, but she got her point across...I like having a big butt & hips...my thighs are out of control here though. The shower was quite an ordeal...lots of bandages & compression everywhere & I was exhausted. 10 minutes after all of that...Alma, the PT person, came by...I had to decline a massage...the thought of taking off anything we had just put on was too overwhelming. She noticed how awkwardly I was in bed & helped prop me up & put pillows under my legs & arms. So sweet. More tasty food from Mama Galvez. The fresh pineapple here was amazing...I asked for it every morning it was available & it would last me into the next day. At this point, my pain was minimal & I was declining pain meds...just a very tight feeling because of all the swelling (& faja). The best part of this day was a 3 hour phone conversation with David & my lymphatic massage from Alma. I decided to take my ring off while I still could...barely...so much swelling. I was so excited to see this lasagne was made with zucchini instead of noodles. Another day...another sexy hotel look. On this day I discovered the breakfast buffet had fabulous salads & hard boiled eggs...I got one every morning for the rest of my stay & ate it with lunch or in-between meals. The best thing about Mama Galvez's meals...she used a LOT of garlic & the veggies were always grilled crisp tender. 

I am an only child & like a significant amount of alone time...however, this was soooo much alone time. We weren't allowed to leave the room...which I think is a bit of cruel punishment. I was in a FaceBook group for all of us that had October surgery...so we could chat with others who were there, but we couldn't meet up. I thought it was a COVID thing, but when I asked one of the valets, she said it started out that way...but then they noticed patients were healing better. It turns out some women would meet up at the breakfast buffet, & move on into the bar...& often leave the hotel to go drinking. Not sure who is up for that after major surgery...but it's always those handful of people that ruin it for everyone. I think there could be a middle ground...like give us an hour to eat breakfast together or visit each other's rooms. It's nice to connect with people who are going through the same experience as you are. I did not eat that rice cake from the 90s. My faja...so I could buy more once I got home. All I did for 10 days was eat. So much food. I never eat 3 meals a day at home. I also watched some really bad Netflix...The Watcher & Dahmer. And...I had 2 of my 4 drains taken out...which didn't hurt, but wow...did it feel weird...I felt it across my whole body...they were so long. Around this time I began experiencing intense back pain...not something I'm used to. Fluevog was having a sale...& I had nothing but time. What started out as...I'll get *one* pair...turned into 3. But so stunning. I don't regret a thing. 

One of the nurses thought my faja was digging into my upper thighs too much, so she was going to try this other one out on me. I didn't really want to because the crotch was just open & I could see myself constantly peeing on it...I wish I would have given it a try though. It might have helped my thighs. Nearing the end of my stay...I got dressed to have my follow up with my surgeons back at the hospital.Drs. Galvez & Sanchez had just gotten out of a 7 hour surgery...this is Galvez...he's so sweet...they both were. I had made bags up for both of them filled with things made here in Madison or nearby...& he posted this to his Instagram story. He answered all my questions...& gave me some insight on my back pain. He said it's most likely because a big chunk was taken out of my back & everything was pulled tight together, so those muscles have been moved & stretched...it should loosen up in time as my skin relaxes & isn't so swollen. I told Dr. Galvez that he's a good man that surrounds himself with great people & that is rare. I'm sure he hears what an excellent surgeon he is all the time...but this was just as important to me. This team is like a family (some of them are actually related) & you can't fake being happy.More yummy food...& my only problematic drain...it was a leaker.Half undressed after my massage with Alma...& I got to graduate to compression sleeves...my upper arms are 10 1/2 inches, swollen...they look so tiny to me. I forgot to bring a tank top, so I cut up the leggings I wore the day before...& immediately after, someone in the hotel offered me one of hers. I asked the valet to run out & get me one...but she said those are difficult to find in Tijuana...weird...I mean, they have the perfect tank weather year round. My final day...I gave away all my extra bottles of water, protein bars, & Halloween candy. All that was left to do was pack up & write out thank you cards for all the nurses & valets. The final breakfast before zooming off to the airport...it was a quick drive since I had bought a medical pass...which allowed us to go into a special line. I had requested wheelchair service at the airport, which was greatly appreciated as I couldn't walk very fast or far. 1st class was pretty fabulous...I was in the front row for both flights & got served my sparkly water in a glass glass. The dinner didn't sound very good, so I skipped it (pasta or impossible meatballs). Changing planes in Chicago...& home! David met me with a wheelchair...which was a good thing as one had not been waiting for me at the gate. David had our cleaning lady come that day so everything was fresh & clean. My doctor had told me no dogs sleeping with me for the first month (to avoid infection)...so Erika did a deep clean in the bedroom. She can't resist making all our paper products into bows & flowers...it cracks me up. So good to be home. I've already booked my next round for 6 months out...thighs & boobs. 


 

Sunday, November 13, 2022

My Final Shitty Barn Show of the Season: The Deslondes

Dress: Orange Print Sleeveless Fit & Flare Dress by Unique Vintage x GB (size XL) via Gwynnie Bee
Cardigan: MAK
Shoes: Fluevog, Firefly: Ficta
All Jewelry: Vintage
Photography: Super Boo, Kate, & Me
Stats: 5'7" 39-37-48
I enjoy these kitschy dresses from the Unique Vintage x GB collaboration...especially this one with oranges all over it...I adore oranges...both the fruit & of course, the color of fun. Great fit & length...perfect amount of swing. 
I didn't have a green cardigan that fit me...so in less than 5 minutes...I remade this size 4x in just the right shade of green to go with this outfit. I just eyeballed it & sewed it up. I think it turned out alright. Between altering & thrifting, I'm slowly building up a new cardigan collection. 
And how ideal are these Fluevogs?! They also come in a bright pink that I might have to have. So cute. 
My make-up with this outfit included...Urban Decay eyeliner in Mars, Make Up For Ever eyeshadow in Tangerine, Natasha Denona Cupid eyeshadow palette, UD lipliner & lipstick in Bang, Nectar lipstick by Sugarpill Cosmetics, OPI nail polish in Living on the Bula-Vard, & Essie nail polish in Sexy Plunge. 
Back in September when I wore this outfit, I reached my goal of being under 200 pounds. I know it's just a number & doesn't mean anything...but to me it means that I took my life back. I couldn't walk without pain for over 2 years. In order to go to my beloved farmers' market...I had to be pushed in a wheelchair. Now I get to live the life I desire...without hurting. 
I first wore this outfit on a Wednesday...to work, farmers' market, & errands. Veronika had a nail in one of her tires & I put in some air...documenting because I've never done that before. 
Then...off to Spring Green for my final Shitty Barn show of the season...
I had seen Riley Downing solo back in July at the barn...but this time was with his band...I'd already bought all the vinyl. 
There's always a lot of time between opening the doors & getting my chair in the front row...& the beginning of music. It was a lovely, albeit chilly, day so I took a walk around the barn. The view from the back. Wearing my new-to-me vintage lambswool coat...soooo warm. 
Riley's dog, Lefty. David Quinn & his band opened the show. And The Deslondes. 
Great last show. The final downtown market for the season with the girlie. This was right before my surgery. 
We got to play songs on veggies & take silly pictures...because that's what bezzers do.

 

Wednesday, November 9, 2022

Last Photos Before Surgery

Dress: Brushstroke Leopard Brandy Faux Wrap Dress by Leota (size XL) via Gwynnie Bee
Cardigan: Jessica Howard (size M), thrifted
Tights: Snag
Shoes: ?, thrifted 
Earring: etXarte
Necklace & Bracelet: Vintage
Photography: Super Boo & Me
Stats: 5'7" 39-37-48
I thought this dress was red, black, & white...but the red turned out to be pink. Still a cute work dress, not very exciting though. Good fit & length. Flirty flouncy edge/hem. Like most Leota dresses, I had to pin the neckline closed. 
I didn't put much thought into this outfit...I just wore it to work a few times & to run errands. These are my final photos before surgery. 
I should have worn a pink earring (I don't think I have any that aren't flowers?) & pink shoes. 
My make-up with this outfit included...Urban Decay eyeliner in Perversion, Violet Voss Berry Burst eyeshadow palette, Becca lipliner in Mood, Big Bang lipliner & lipstick by UD, & OPI nail polish in Royal Rajah Ruby. 
I wore this dress to work twice & to run some last minute errands before leaving the country for 10 days for surgery. I put together gift bags of various things made in Madison for each of my surgeons & bought Halloween candy for the nurses. David got me a new BookBook for my iPhone & one to put all my cords in for travel. Stocking up on face lotion. 

 

Tuesday, November 8, 2022

A Raisin In The Sun // Dancing // Wasted // Peter Mulvey & SistaStrings

Dress: V-Neck Floral Maxi Dress by Forever That Girl (size XL) via Nuuly
Cardigan: Time & Tru (size M), thrifted
Shoes: Fly London
Necklace & Earring: Green Goddess Vintage
Earring: etXarte
Bracelet & Purse: Vintage
Photography: Super Boo, Kate, & Me
Stats: 5'7" 39-37-48
In love...orange & black & pattern mixing?! This maxi was made for me. It was a good fit, but a touch big...the straps were adjustable & the elastic in back would have made a great shape had I gone a size down. I think the cardigan hid that well. 

Better with the cardigan...but here it is without...
How could I not adore a dress that pairs so well with my favorite color, leopard?
My make-up with this outfit included...Urban Decay eyeliner in Perversion, Stila liquid liner in Intense Black, NYX Phoenix eyeshadow palette, Pumpkin lipliner from NYX, Toast lipstick from Bite Beauty, Sugarpill Cosmetics lipstick in Treat, & OPI nail polish in A Woman's Prague-ative. 
Not my Clockwork Orange face...I just marvel at the length of my lashes every time I put on mascara. Grand Lash MD. Cutting up market veggies for David to grill for our APT picnic. I love how every time we selfie, he kisses me. 
We brought grilled veggies & shrimp with a Thai peanut sauce for dinner. 
Unplanned coordination of our autumn palette. 
Kate & Jason...caught in the act of being cute. 
Kate & Jason brought sparkling wine, tofu, & raspberries. After our picnic, Kate showed us this longer trail up the hill, but as it was already dark...David & I took it the next day instead...which I previously posted. Bundled up in one of my vintage lambswool coats. 
A Raisin In The Sun was marvelous...& the acting was outstanding. The plays were fantastic this year, but this shot into 1st place for us. 
Beautiful night. Wonderful company.
The second time I wore this dress was for a jam packed Saturday. We began by going to this woman's biannual shoe sale...where I found 4 pairs of shoes & David found some pants. These aren't my favorite Fluevogs...but they are fun colors & it's nice to have comfy slip-on shoes to wear on errands.  
Then...on to our final ballroom dancing group class & private lesson. I mean, not forever...but this was my last weekend before surgery, so I have to take a bit of a break. 
Here we are learning the Cha Cha...

Back at home...salad making time...Kale Salad with Honeynut Squash, Pomegranate, & Pumpkin Seeds. It wasn't quite pomegranate season yet, so I had to use frozen...not nearly as good. A sunny afternoon for Wasted: Fall Reds. Tart crabapples David picked off Lindsay & Patrick's tree. Cute couple. 
Oh, look...another cute couple...with fun shoes!
Drinking delicious reds.
I need a selection of cute autumn & winter hats...but until then, here I am using my summer bonnet to protect me from the sun. 
After much drinking of wine...dinner at Ahan. 
Yum. David & Jason joined us for dinner, then Kate & I stayed for the show at Bur Oak. 
I love that these two phenomenal places share a space. 
Peter Mulvey & SistaStrings...our 3rd time seeing the sisters. Marvelous show with my girlie & a fabulous end to a wonderful long day.